The theme for Linda’s SoCS October 21, 2017, is Season.
There are seasons in a dating relationship. My definition of seasons of dating refers to a relationship that goes through a period of changes in order to establish its stability.
Through my counseling experience, I find that rushing into a relation, and getting married within a few months has a pitfall. There is no doubt about the initial magnetic attractions each other feel so strongly. The euphoria of meeting the Princess and Prince Charming makes the hearts swell with bubbles and nonstop smiles on the faces. They find themselves can’t stop talking about the Miss Right and Mister Perfect. Their minds go 100 mph and take the thoughts through the intimacy and walking down the aisle, and the two live happily ever after.
Miss Smith met Mr. Williams. They saw each other two or three times a week and texted each other throughout the day.
After one month, they invited the siblings to go on outings to introduce the family members to each other. The dating couple and the siblings had a blast.
Two months later they decided to meet the prospective parents. Miss Smith’s parents were impressed by Mr. Williams at a dinner in the restaurant. Miss Smith met Mr. William’s single mom and the other siblings at home. Mrs. Smith seemed to be aloof. The siblings were joking with each other. Mr. Williams seemed to be running around taking care of family members’ needs. He didn’t sit down with Miss Smith to have a meaningful conversation with his mom.
A couple months went by; Miss Smith still felt that she couldn’t get Mr. Williams to be engaged in a deeper level of conversation. At the same time, Mr. Williams tried to push the idea of getting married.
Miss Smith started to express her question about the relationship in her text to Mr. Williams. He was panic and apologetic about any wrongdoings.
A couple more weeks went by. Miss Smith felt that Mr. Williams couldn’t carry on an objective discussion but pressed on the issue of getting married.
Miss Smith felt very uncomfortable even texting to Mr. Williams. She picked up her courage and texted Mr. Williams that she decided to end the relationship. Mr. Williams wanted to talk about that once more time face to face.
Miss Smith arrived at Mr. Williams’ apartment next morning. She rang the doorbell but didn’t get any answer. She knocked and knocked. The door cracked open, apparently wasn’t locked. She let herself in. Mr. Williams was sitting on the couch buried his face in his palms. Miss Smith sat down across from Mr. Williams and repeatedly asked how he was doing. Mr. Williams started to bang his head with his fists and started sobbing. Eventually, he was screaming.
“You’re just like everyone else. You don’t care about me. You just want to leave me.”
With that, he went into his bedroom, threw into the bed facing the pillow and sobbed uncontrollably.
“Are you okay? Do you want me to help?”
“You’re no different than anyone. You just want to leave me!”
Miss Smith was getting scared. Her instinct told her that she was facing a problem bigger than she could handle.
She picked her purse, out the door she went, and never looked back.
What do you think about the story? What happened to the relationship of the two? What was going on with Mr. Williams? What do you think about Miss Smith’s decision?
My opening statement is about the dating and allowing the relationship to go through different seasons of changes to establish the stability. It’s not necessarily to go through the seasons of the calendar year.
The symbols of the seasons are:
Summer is filled with sunshine, activities, excitement, fun, and laughter.
Autumn is changing in nature. Leaves lose their pigmentation, alter their colors and wither.
Winter is cold, shivering, bareness, and hibernation.
Spring is the return of life, freshness, blossom, beauty, joy, and hope.
When dating goes through the symbolic changes of seasons, the two individuals stick with each other through thick and thin, learn to give and take the support and appreciation, the ongoing relationship will most likely be able to withstand the changes of the future seasons.