RIP My Beautiful Sister
I had written a post about my sister Canty’s Home going on January 29 when I returned from Hong Kong.
It was my nephew Enoch’s wedding on January 19, 2019. Mercy, Will, Autumn, Lynton and I traveled to Hong Kong to share his joyous beginning journey of marriage. We arrived on January 12. Three days later, I got a message from sister #12 Yolanda, the mother-in-law to be, letting me know that sister #8 Canty was in the hospital. Later that day, Canty’s son messaged me that his mom had liver inflammation and hydrocephalus, congestive heart failure.
Sister #13 Queenie was also traveling from Los Angeles to Hong Kong to attend the wedding. I had scheduled the visit of Canty as soon as Queenie arrived.
On the 17th, the third day of being in the hospital, Canty’s condition made a sharp decline at noon. We all rushed to the hospital by taxi. She was unconscious when we were by her bedside. We took turns to massage her head and hands, speaking to her. She seemed to hear us as the muscles of the forehead gradually relaxed.
Queenie arrived in that early evening and made her way to the hospital. By that time, the monitor couldn’t detect the blood pressure. The doctor said she was on 100% oxygen and received mediation to sustain her heart. Her breathing and heartbeat were artificial for some hours.
After Queenie spoke to her, I went close to the bed and saw the blood coming out of her nose. I got the attention of the nurse. The nurse couldn’t stop the bleeding and informed us that, “It’s time.” Before the nurse closed the drape around her bed, I saw the blood gushing out of her nostrils.
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Canty was a Ballroom Dance instructor in her early years. She continued to be active in dancing. She participated in the Dance Championship on November 4, 2018 and received an award. She posted some photos on social media. I messaged her on January 4, 2019, saying I wanted to see her dancing. She sent me the video clip of her Championship dancing. I said, “See you next week.”
It was saddened to say good-bye to her within two weeks of sharing her thrilling moments.




The celebration of her life was on March 2 and cremation was on March 3, 2019.


I’m sorry for your loss.My family and I can relate how you feel. Last year we just lost both our Mom and Dad.My deepest sympathies to you and you’re family.
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Thank you so much, Felix, and sorry for your loss of your Mom and Dad. I know it’s hard and I’m sure the memories of them give you a little comfort…
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Vaya Con Dios! God be with You.
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Gracias!
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my friend- I am sorry all over again for your loss.
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Thank you so much, Michele. We’ll always remember her and her dance!
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I am so very sorry for your loss, dear Miriam! My heart and prayers are with you! ❤ ❤
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I appreciate your comfort. She is now dancing in heaven. ❤ ❤
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Oh Miriam, I am truly so very sorry. I am glad you were with her, and I hope you can take some comfort in knowing she was not alone and is no longer suffering. Thinking of you & your family, and sending lots of love your way ♥🌷
Caz xxxxx
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Yes, thank you so much. We’re thankful to be there for her and she knew we were with her! ❤
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(((hugs))) Miriam ❤
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Thank you very much, Brian. ❤
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My condolences for you and your family,. May Almighty gives you patience.! Amen.
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I appreciate your comment, thank you so much. Yes, we know He has a reason for everything.
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Indeed.!
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I’m so sorry for your loss Miriam, my condolences!!!
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So sorry for your loss, Miriam… Thoughts, love and prayers to you and all of your family.
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Thank you so much, Bette. We were shock and overwhelmed but we were thankful that she didn’t suffer for too long.
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I am so sorry for your loss. I lost one of my sister’s 2015. You will learn to accept.💜💜💜💜
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Thank you, Willow. Sorry to hear your loss of your sister. Yes, I know. It helps to know that she’s not suffering anymore. ❤ ❤ ❤
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Thinking of you 💜
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Yes, Willow, we know that we’re not alone! ❤
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Dear Miriam, words always fail me when I hear about such sad and close losses. I am sending
you a big virtual hug and wish for peace for you all.
Your pictures are precious, you show your sister’s vibrant personality.
miriam
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Thank you so much, Miriam. I always find short in words also in such circumstances. Yes, she had a close circle of dancing friends and community services friends. I got the photos from her Facebook. The last one she messaged me was the dancing championship video, 3 weeks before she passed away. I now try to stay in touch with my nephews, her sons’ families.
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I’m so sorry for your loss Miriam. Your sister seemed to be a very accomplished woman and I’m sad she died so young. My condolenscences to you and your family.
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Thank you so much, Mandi. Yes, she was very active in her personal and community life.
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She looks to be a beautiful soul Miriam. R.I.P.
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Thank you, Brigid. She was beautiful inside and out!! She is now rest in peace.
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Oh my… Miriam, I’m so very sorry for your loss. Sending you (((hugs))) and blessings across the miles. XO
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Thank you, Natalie. I appreciate you warm wishes and blessings. We have such a fond memory of her. ❤
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So sorry to read about your terrible loss, Miriam. What a beautiful person your sister Canty is. May she rest in peace and may you all be comforted by beautiful memories and the knowledge that she has gone ahead of you into eternal love, one day to be reunited.
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Thank you so much for stopping by. I appreciate your comment. Yes, she’s happy and dancing forever and we’ll see her soon.
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My sincere condolences, Miriam.
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Thank you, Amy for stopping by. I appreciate your comment.
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My condolences, Miriam. What a blessing you could be there, and your family too. Hugs. ❤
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Thank you, Linda. Yes, we were amazed that the whole immediate family was there for her. ❤
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What a beautiful and precious child of God. I am so sorry for your loss, yet we know she is now dances in the glories of a world of never-ending beginnings where the Lord of Life gives only love and laughter and eternal light. God bless you and your family!
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Thank you, Jonathan! It means a lot to me. She had her share of suffering some ways and I’m grateful she sheds no tears anymore.
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So sorry for your loss Miriam. She was blessed with a loving family and an active life.
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Peter, it’s kind of you to stop by and comment. We’re thankful for the extraordinary timing to be there to say good-bye to her.
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Im so sorry for your loss 🙏🏼
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Thank you very much, Alexis for your comment.
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So sorry for the loss of your beautiful sister, Miriam. Your post is a loving tribute to her.
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Thank you, Norah. I was looking forward to see her dance. I’m glad to have her video to watch over and over again.
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That’s wonderful. It will make her feel closer. ❤
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Exactly, Norah. ❤
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So sorry Miriam, such sad news 😦
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Thank you Ruth. It’s sad, but we’re thankful that she didn’t suffer for too long. ❤
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Sorry for your loss. Grace and peace.
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Thank you so much, Tony. I appreciate your comment.
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So sorry to hear this Miriam. Our prayers for her soul to RIP.. Take care, Miriam.🙏
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Thank you, Deepika! Yes, she is rest in peace now. ❤
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I send you my most sense weigh me. May his soul rest in peace. A hug.
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Thank you so much for your kind words. 🙂
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So sorry about your loss, Miriam. I am praying for you and your family.God loves you! ❤
Your sister’s dancing pictures are beautiful!
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Thank you so much, Gail for your love and prayer. ❤
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Hugs Miriam 🤗💜
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Thank you, Ritu. ❤ 🙂
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Sending my condolences –
She isn’t now dancing in heaven
And love the dresses and he photos 😉
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Thank you, Yvette. Yes, she’s dancing in heaven now. 🙂
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So sorry to hear about your loss Miriam. May her soul rest in peace. Take care.
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Thank you, Radhika for your kind words!
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Your sister doesn’t look very old in these beautiful pictures, Miriam. I am so sorry for your loss.
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I appreciated your kind words, Robbie. My sister was not old when she passed away, compared to my mom passed away at 90, my dad at 86 after a stroke. She looked young also.
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