SoCS – Resolve
The prompt from Linda G. Hill for #JusJoJan and Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: “resolve.”

I don’t sit down to write my New Year’s resolutions. I resolve to do most of the things I had done in 2021 and try to do them better in 2022. In fact, there were too many interruptions in 2021. It wasn’t a good year to accomplish things I wanted to do. I had better years than that of the last year. I expect a better year in 2022.
Let me just say that whatever I do, I keep my basic values in mind which are: family, fitness, fun, friends, and finance. There are many subcategories in the area of fun.
Family


My family always comes first. I have resumed my schedule of visiting my daughter’s family every six weeks.
It’s important for me to be close to my granddaughters. I remember starting a new family with a baby with no relatives to help. It was the most stressful time for me. During one particular year when Mercy was a baby, I started my first-year full-time teaching at the Los Angeles Unified School District and doing full-time (12 units) studies of Child Development at California State University, Los Angeles. Three full-time jobs all at once. I was a rehabilitation counselor prior to that and just switched over to education. I didn’t want to lose my teaching opportunity and didn’t want to wait any longer to finish school. Of course, my baby was most important.
I never want Mercy to have a stressful experience like mine. I always encourage her that if she could afford it, do one thing at a time. The Covid turned out to be a blessing to her in that she didn’t work during her pregnancy. She stayed home to take care of baby Nora for sixteen months. Right now, she is working part-time on the days when Autumn and Nora go to school.
My husband wants to get together with some of his siblings once a month. Most of them live 40 miles from us. They are coming our way to meet this month and we’ll go to them to meet next month. We’re also talking about taking a family vacation to Australia and New Zealand.
Fitness



I see fitness as a way of life. When my dad came to the US to visit us at the age of 84, he got up at 6:00 a.m. The first thing he did was to stretch for half an hour.
I have been going to the gym, swimming, walking in the neighborhood, or on the trail consistently for years and years. My husband and I started working out together two days a week since his retirement in 2016. There were interruptions during the pandemic. But we resumed going back to the gym several months ago.
We do some modifications to the workout. We keep our routine of using the different machines, the number of sets, and the duration of time (such as walking on the treadmill) but reduce the intensity or weight. As we’re getting older, it takes longer to recover from the sore muscles.
Fun


There are many things I do for fun which include reading, writing, blogging, painting, gardening, photographing, singing, learning, and traveling. I always say it would take three parallel lifetimes to fully enjoy my hobbies.
I raised 20 Monarch butterflies in 2021. I’m ready to do it again this summer. The milkweed should grow nicely and hopefully, I’ll have a better way to set up the butterfly cages.
The Chorale group didn’t meet most part of 2021 but resumed meeting to sing with masks on later in the fall. I’ll continue to sing in this group.
I haven’t done watercolor painting for a while. I may pick up the watercolor painting at least for one quarter during 2022.
Hopefully, my husband and I will take one trip this year. We wanted to go to Banff, Canada last August but the border was closed. We may consider going sometime this year.
Friends
It’s important for me to keep in touch with my friends.
The pandemic wasn’t too helpful in this area with the social distancing requirement and the gathering restriction. I hope to get together with friends even when we meet outdoors.
Finance

Financial independence means freedom.
I don’t have the impulse to buy things. I only buy what I need, not just what I want.
My husband and I just went through stacks of old documents when doing decluttering. It reminded me of the number of times I refinanced our current home and the previous two homes. Whenever the interest rate went down, I refinanced the homes. Prior to refinancing, I created a spreadsheet to calculate the total interest paid during the financing periods.
I know it takes money to save money or make money. I count it as a blessing to use my resources to save money and have extra money to put in the stock account to make a little money.
How do I do it? Here is an example:
Family is the top priority. It’s the motivation behind what I do every day.
I exercise (fitness) regularly, keeping in mind that I need to be strong and healthy in order to be with my granddaughters as often as we want. I can’t be with them if I’m sick.
I follow the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) guidelines carefully to avoid contracting the virus, even when it means reducing the social contact with my friends.
I try to reduce unnecessary expenses (finance) to have more money to travel every six weeks to see my granddaughters.
Wishing you a Wonderful New Year!

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Interesting blog. What a beautiful family you have.
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Thank you so much for your comment.
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Miriam, it’s lovely to learn more about you through your 2022 non-resolution resolutions! Your love for family shines out and as you can imagine this is my number one in life! It’s wonderful you can be close to your daughter and her family, a constant presence for your granddaughters (and your daughter!), that is so precious! I know how much I valued all the support my mother gave me when my son was young – not sure we would quite have coped otherwise! Your love of nature is present through your posts and hooray, I’m beaming that you raised 20 monarch butterflies last year – that must have been amazing! All the best for this year and a privilege to see something so unique. Wow! Your and your husband’s commitment to exercise, especially the gym, is exemplary.
Wishing you a magical and creative 2022, my friend! hugs xx ❤️
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Than you so much for your lovely and kind comment, Annika! I learned early in life that my mindset is important. It determines how I feel and what I do. I didn’t have an easy life growing up because my family was poor in my teen years. I set my eyes on the heros and good examples and good advice through those years. They helped me to become what I do and how I feel today. All else fails but the family is always there.
Have a wonderful and blessed 2022, my friend! 💞😍
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I love this!!! Thank you for sharing🙌💯
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Then you very much, Brittney! 😊👍
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I like your resolve, Miriam. I also raised my daughter with little bolstering support and could relate to your desire to make sure that Mercy had a less stressful experience. It’s why my husband and I moved from Vermont to Oregon. And I do hope you paint a little this year. I love your artwork. And have fun traveling! My husband and I are going to Banff at the end of July! See… great minds think alike. Wishing you a fabulous new year and all your goals well met. Hugs ❤ ❤ ❤
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Oh wow, my dear friend, thank you for sharing! I worked so hard when she was little and didn’t pay attention to you as much as I wanted, in a sense of spending time to have fun with her. It was just dinner, homework, bedtime story, and going to bed. It’s wonderful that she has so much fun time with Autumn and Nora right now. It’s beautiful.
I’m happy about your move and have more quality of life. It’s ironic that I only learned to relax from the time of cancer treatment when I couldn’t do anything but relax.
We may run into you in Banff!! That would be amazing, Diana! ❤ ❤ ❤
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We can meet for lunch on the shores of Lake Louise! Ha ha.
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It sounds like a plan, Diana! We’re going to Lake Louise!
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I’m glad you’re able to spend this time with your family, it’s life-affirming for both of you ❤ On a health note, you and hubby are an inspiration!
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Thank you, Jacquie! Hubby is more vigorous in his workout. At the age of 66, he still has the muscles firm as steel! ❤ I'd be happy just do enough not to feel stiff and to ease my lower back pain! ❤
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These are all wonderful goals. Spending time with your family is so important, especially when they are small. They will remember your visits.
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That’s right, Darlene! Our lives are shaped by influences from people who play an important roles. They bring joy and meaning to your lives also. 💞
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Excellent goals! I haven’t ignored you, Miriam, but I got disconnected from your blog again. This time I signed up through Word Press and email. Hopefully, one will keep me receiving your posts. Good luck to you in 2022!
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I saw that you re-followed, thank you so much, Pete! I got disconnected to myself almost weekly! I had to re-follow also in order to see my post on Reader because I want to see how my post looks on Reader. I signed up for email, I clicked get notification and everything. Probably a few others also got disconnected. I’ll go around to visit everyone tomorrow! Will check yours tomorrow also. Somehow your posts do show up on my Reader, but they show up on my notification. Dealing with WordPress is annoying.
Happy New Year and best wishes to you and your family!
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I like the alliteration – makes it easy to remember the five F’s…
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I have developed the five F’s in the last couple of yeas. It was fun.
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and who could argue wih any of those five Fs?
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Wonderful goals, Miriam – everything important is covered. I agree with you about exercise. It’s been a regular part of my life since I was a teen – even through pregnancies – and I always feel better for doing it. But you’re right about those sore muscles, lol.
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I think exercise is very important to keep the circulation, muscle tone, and flexibility. My daughter went swimming during pregnancy. She did triathlon with her husband once. I flew up to Portland to be the cheer leader!
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Always great to have plans! Banff is lovely. I hope you get there soon!
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I’ve looked at the pictures of Banff, Linda, and love them. My daughter and her husband went there. My sister and her husband went there also. I do hope to get there soon when the craziness comes to an end or slow down.
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I don’t disagree with any of your goals! It’s funny that under ‘fitness’, you have only your husband working out. I know how much you swim and walk, Miriam! You are amazing with that. I’ve added a Peloton Tread to my workout which should show up on Strava but something just isn’t working right. Sigh.
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When we go to the gym, I took photos of Lynton very often. Finally, he took photos of me a couple of times. Okay, I added my workout photo, Jacqui! I don’t know how to add a treadmill on Strava. I hope you’ll figure it out.
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You look great–intimidating even, all that powerful equipment around you. Go get ’em!
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My left arm got hurt last summer with the renovation of the wall in the backyard, all the digging after they removed the concrete. I had a cortisone shot which helps the most of it, and now in physical therapy. The therapist said just keep exercising to maintain muscle strength. What we’re doing routinely is maintenance.
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You have excellent goals, Miriam, and I pray you succeed with all of them in the coming year. Family and friends are so important and we should always make time for fun and fitness, plus keep an eye on finance. Happy New Year to you and yours!
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Thank you so much, Mae! I try to keep my life simple. Even when other things fail, I want to keep my family close! Have a wonderful New year!
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Your categories are RIGHT ON, Miriam. I love FAMILY, FITNESS, FUN, AND FINANCE. Yessss. I have the same ones in my mind, but that last one. Yikes. I have a hard time with numbers. But I know to not buy what I don’t need, and that I don’t need that much. I know to save and to ‘set aside for a rainy day.’ These things have helped us be comfortable. Family is priority #1, and fitness is an everyday thing. Every. Day. I stretch, yoga, dance, walk as well as meditate (fitness for the mind). It’s imperative. Happy, Happy new year to you. ❤
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Thank you for your positive comment, Pam! It’s wonderful to know you’re doing the same things. I love the things you do for fitness. After two wonderful yoga instructors quit (both due to pregnancy), I couldn’t find any instructor I like, so I stopped doing yoga. I should try again. 🙂
I imagine I had more years to figure out the last one. It was 28 years ago when I refinanced my house for the first time because I had an adjustable interest rate and the rate went up to almost 14%. It gave me a heart attack. I needed to get a second mortgage to pay down the first mortgage to qualify for a lower interest rate. The mortgage is always the biggest expense of anyone.
Wishing you and your family a blessed New Year. ❤
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Oh, you sure learned a lesson on the financing. Good for you, though. Yes, when those kinds of things happen, yoga keeps my blood pressure and stress levels down, stretches out my spine and my soul, and helps me “deal” with life. 🙂 xo
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Such a positive attitude toward all aspects of life. Wishing you happiness, health, and harmony this year. Sounds like you’re well on your way already.
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Thank you, Staci! Yes, I pretty much just continue to do what I’ve been doing but mentally make an effort to try harder in some areas. Have a wonderful and blessed New Year, Staci!
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I love your positive attitude going into 2022, Miriam!!
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Thank you, Liz! CDC says the omicron is weaker than the previous virus even though it spreads faster. Let’s hope that it will fade away before the year is over!!
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You’re welcome, Miriam. I certainly hope you’re right about the virus.
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Let’s see, and HOPE, Liz.😊
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So beautiful girl for 2022!
I hope you always succeed all work. Good luck! You lucky to have daughter support.you have to happy family.
God bless!
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Thank you very much, Rajkkhoja! Yes, family is important.
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So nice fitness. Good job. Beautiful pic.
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Thank you very much, Rajkkhoja!
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Miriam I love your values and I’m so glad that you follow them so carefully. I think that is a very important thing in life. Toni x
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Thank you very much, Toni! I think it means a lot to know what is important to me. I would be content when other things fail but the family is still there.
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HI Miriam, this is a fantastic list of goals to develop. You are a wonderful support to your daughter. I had the same from my mother and it was a great blessing.
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I had the same support from my mother with my daughter. It made such a big difference in our lives.
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Isn’t it wonderful, Liz! I’m happy for you that your mother played an important role in your daughter’s life. I also have a strong bond with Autumn. As soon as she wakes up, she would come to our room to wake me up before going to my daughter’s room. She loves to have us around. It’s so funny that she wants grandpa to tickle her feet!!
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Autumn sounds like a little livewire! I can only imagine her the week before Grandma and Grandpa are due to arrive for a visit.
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You’re right in that, Liz. She made plans for things to do with us. She did projects to give us as presents.
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I imagine your mother feels somewhat the same way I feel, Robbie. I remember she took you to SA when you were young. She worked hard to support herself and you. It was great that she has her sister there. And now she wants to give you as much support as she could. It’s great that your father also helped out with your boys. I hope he is doing well.
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This is s great plan, Miriam. I love your priorities!
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Thank you, Denise! Yes, the list is in the order of the priorities. I hope your neighbors have the power back. I’m still in awe of coming home safely when thousands of flights continue to be canceled when people try to get home.
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Sounds like a good plan Miriam. I hope 2022 will be one of fun laughter and family for you. Good luck with a very successful butterfly hatching this year 🙂
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I hope to raise more than 20 butterflies this year, Brian. It’s still too early to plan. I’ll start in early March. 🙂
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It will be fun to warch the progress Miriam 🙂
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Yes, it will be, Brian. 🙂
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