Victory Over Bitterness
In my counseling experience, I have seen many people get stuck in situations of anger and resentment. I came across this article by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D. and the following is a summary. You may find the original article at Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/evolution-the-self/201501/don-t-let-your-anger-mature-bitterness
Don’t Let Your Anger “Mature” Into Bitterness, by Leon F Seltzer Ph.D.
“Bitterness is unforgiveness fermented.” (Gregory Popcak)
The Cause of Bitterness
All bitterness starts out as a hurt. Your emotional pain may well be related to being victimized. Someone has wronged you and caused you grieve. Anger and resentment readily came along. When left to fermentation, anger eventually becomes the corrosive ulcer that is bitterness. Stephen Diamond, Ph.D. defines bitterness as “a chronic and pervasive state of smoldering resentment,” and deservedly regards it as “one of the most destructive and toxic of human emotions.”
The Cost of Bitterness
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Prolong your mental and emotional pain
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Lead to long-lasting anxiety and/or depression
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Precipitate vengeful acts
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Prevent you from experiencing the potential joys of living fully in the present
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Create, or further deepen, an attitude of distrust and cynicism
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Interfere with your cultivating healthy, satisfying relationships
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Compromise or weaken your higher ideals
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Rob you of vital energy
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Undermine your physical health by taxing (or “overloading”) your immune system