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Lens-Artists Photo Challenge #47: Five Elements

The challenge Amy gave us this week is: Five elements.

Five Elements Theory is a Chinese philosophy which describes that the world changes according to the five elements’ generating or overcoming relationships.

Generating Interactions – The five generating interactions are fueling, forming, containing, carrying, and feeding:

  • Wood fuels fire
  • Fire forms earth
  • Earth contains metal
  • Metal carries water
  • Water feeds wood

Overcoming Interactions – The five overcoming interactions are melting, penetrating, separating, absorbing, and quenching:

  • Fire melts metal
  • Metal penetrates wood
  • Wood separates earth
  • Earth absorbs water
  • Water quenches fire

The interactions illustrate the relationship even though they are not necessarily in the exact order as listed above. Source

The Five Elements Theory is also related to the Chinese Zodiac and Fengshui, a system of laws considered to govern spatial arrangement and orientation in relation to the flow of energy. Source

 

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A ball of fire going down behind the silhouette of woods in my neighborhood, California

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Metal Bridge, Moulton Falls Regional Park, Washington

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Hollow wood in Silver Falls, Portland, Oregon

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One of the waterfalls in Silver Falls, Portland, Oregon

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Muddy earth after eruption in 1980, Mt St. Helen, Washington

 

Lens-Artists Photo Challenge #47: Five Elements

 

 

 

Weekly Photo Challenge – Beloved

I met my beloved husband Lynton in a church group for single parents. It was the last meeting before summer break. The group didn’t meet again until the following fall season. We exchanged phone numbers and that was the beginning of our twenty-four years of relationship.

One of our first dates was going to a Motivational Leadership Conference. I know, it wasn’t too romantic, but we both were interested in administration and management. When the conference was over, on our way to the parking lot, I thought, it would be nice to keep an admission ticket as souvenir. I turned my head and looked at him. Before I said anything, he reached out to his pocket and took out a ticket, asked if I would like to keep one. It impressed upon me that our antennas received signals from each other already.

Lynton has been supportive of me in many practical ways. I had the administrative credential seven years before we met. For various reasons, I didn’t feel I had the strength to hold an administrative job. An administrative job is a twelve-month, 8:00 a.m. to 5:00 p.m. position whereas teaching is a ten-month, 8:00 a.m. to 3:00 p.m. position. When I was promoted to the administrative position in 1998, I was ready to accept it because of Lynton’s support.

He was a great cheer leader when I decided to get my doctorate degree in Educational Leadership. I went to school full time in addition to my full-time job. All my evenings and weekends were spent on assignments and projects and dissertation in the final year. For three years, he watched television wearing a headphone. I worked on assignments in my office with the paper and books laying on the floor. And I did my reading in the living room where he watched television. At least I was in the same room with him. I dedicated my doctorate degree to him.

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We now both are retired, we go to the gym together three times a week. As I mentioned in the previous posts, he is doing all the cooking, doing dishes, and working on many house projects.

We remind each other again and again that it was a divine appointment in which we met. It’s His guidance and our respect for each other that sustain our relationship!

Weekly Photo Challenge – Beloved

Birthday Present

I have written a post about My daughter Mercy. I love her dearly.

November 22 is my birthday. Some years, my birthday falls on Thanksgiving Day. This year, it was the day before Thanksgiving. My daughter Mercy, her husband Will, and baby Autumn came on Sunday, November 19 and stayed until the day after Thanksgiving.

On my birthday, we went to the mall to do window shopping. We then had some photos taken in front of the only Christmas tree. Santa was there for kids’ visit and photos. We were going to have photos taken with different decorations, but it seemed like the decorations were down to minimal. Perhaps I hadn’t been to the mall during Christmas for many years and didn’t realize the shrinkage.

We had dinner at a restaurant. Mercy gave me a booklet for my birthday present. It entitled “I Love You, Mom. And Here’s Why!” Each page has a prompt for her to share her thoughts with me. When we got home, I couldn’t wait but read through the twenty-one pages. My eyes were filled with tears from the first line of Mercy’s writing, and the smile mixed with tears for the remaining pages.

Here are two examples of the pages.

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I love you very much, Mercy!

First Sign of Autumn

My daughter Mercy is waiting for her first baby’s arrival. She and I went for a walk to the local park today. We first went to the post office to mail an international letter. Before heading to the park, we stopped by a bakery to pick up some pastries and hot drinks. We then went and sat on the bench in the park, watching the kids running around, going up and down on the slides. The sun came out after two days’ off and on rain. We had such a relaxing time and heartfelt conversation together.

Here are some photos I took on our way to the park and this is the first sign of autumn I captured. The leaves on the maple tree just started to change color. How lovely to see a homegrown pumpkin!

I’ll stay with my daughter until the end of October. The colors of autumn will be gorgeous later next month!

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Daily Prompt: Leaf

SoCS August 26, 2017

Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is: Start with “WHEN.” Write whatever you’d like, but begin your post with the word “when.” Enjoy! – Linda

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WHEN I worked in my garden the last four day, it made me think that “There is no such thing as maintenance free garden.”

I couldn’t do too much to maintain my garden earlier in the summer because of the heat. Due to my post melanoma condition, I would get heat rash when I am outdoor under the hot sun or indoor in a hot Jacuzzi.

Last couple weeks, the temperature was lower. It is comfortable to work in my garden. Since I couldn’t do anything for several months, there is a lot of work to do. The twenty-four rose bushes need to be trimmed. The dead flowers need to be removed and new flowers to be planted. All the flowers need to be fertilized. The sixteen Date Palm plants need to be trimmed badly.

I did about four hours of work each day for one section of the garden. By the end of the fourth hour, I could feel that my energy came to the end. I quickly wrapped up and went straight for a warm bath with Epson salt and Eucalyptus Sea salt to soothe my tiredness. There is one more day to go to finish my flower section. Some Date palms are getting taller than me. My husband will help to trim the tall ones. It will take many days of work just to trim the Date Palms.

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WHEN I worked in my garden, it also made me think that “There is no such thing as maintenance free relationship.” In order to keep a good relationship, we need the ongoing communication, commitment, confirmation, consideration, cooperation, and compromise.

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Linda’s Stream of Consciousness Saturday: SoCS August 25, 2017

Shallow Thinking

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(Fictional illustration)

“My brother had a motorcycle accident yesterday. He was taken to the hospital, but didn’t make it,” Alice told her boyfriend.

“Yes, riding motorcycle is dangerous. From 2004 to 2014, there were about 4000 to 5000 deaths per year in motorcycle accidents,” he tried to respond to the news.

** What do you think about his answer? What would you say to her?

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She is a noisy person, too busy talking and doesn’t have enough time to think. Her thinking stays shallow, never gets a chance to sink.

He is a silent person, too busy thinking, the thoughts are so complex and deep that he doesn’t know where the talking should begin,

Well, these are the two extremes of a wide spectrum; there is always something in between.

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Daily Prompt: Shallow

Weekly Photo Challenge – Wish

Portland

My husband and I live in southern California. My daughter and her husband live in Portland Oregon. There is 1,000 miles in distance. We visit each other several times a year and go places together. My “wish” or “desire” has been that we live closer together. We could just hop over for dinner. We could have a game night until late, and still not too far away to get home. We could go for a walk and talk about everyday life. With technology, there’s no limit to send a text, get on the phone, or skype. Yet, there is nothing compare to being close by and able to do thing spontaneously.

Photos: Portland airport, Japanese Garden OR, Laguna Beach CA, Multnomah Fall, OR

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Wish

Daily Prompt – Oversight

A little hole here,

A little gap there.

The missing parts

Bring about by oversight.

Insecure feeling in a child, who

Needs a nod or a smile;

Hurtful heart in a spouse, who

Waits for a word of love;

Unsure look on a friend, who

Expects a hug before goodbye.

Mending the difference is an essence; by

Mutual communication,

Slower the pace of interaction,

Ensuring sensitive attention,

Valuing relationship over tasks done.

Oversight is to be forgiven, or

Bridge the gap with a kiss and a hug!

Daily Prompt: Oversight